Welcome everyone! I am honored to have you on this call. There are so many ways that you could be spending your time right now, and you chose to be part of this group. I promise that I'm going to do my very best to make this worth your while!
First of all, I want to say that just showing up today is powerful. By being on this call, or taking this course later, you are acknowledging that you want to improve your life -- that there is a gap between where you are right now, and where you really want to be.
And just knowing that is perfect!
This is a space to challenge ourselves to adopt an honest perspective and recognize areas where change is not just necessary, but critical for a more productive life. And I'll be upfront- part of my intention is to make you a little uncomfortable. I think that discomfort is great for shaking things up, and helping you see your life in a different way, so that you can take action.
At the same time, we'll make sure to be kind to ourselves. We never make a straight line to our goal. It meanders, and we need to forgive ourselves for expecting it to be straight.
While this might be a surprise to hear, I hated the experience. Hecht's methods were harsh in a way that I found controlling. His goal was to terrify us into realizing that, if we kept living the way that we were, our financial future was doomed.
This hard-hearted man would literally have us go to a run-down part of town, drive around, and imagine how that would be our lives if we didn't change anything. Needless to say, I did not recommend the course to my friends.
However, even though it was jarring, the course was also effective. The realization that I mined from the experience was: You are the person who brought you to this point in your life, and if you're not happy, you have the power to change it.
You hold the reins to your future, and every decision shapes the path ahead.
Afterwards, a lot of people became very serious about making more money and taking care of their future. I was one of them. That decision changed my life, and led me to grow from 0 to a 600-person, profitable global consultancy and be financially set for life.
And relationships with the significant people in my life plays an important role in my future. And to have relationships in the future I must invest in them in the present. So I play board games with my kids, nephews and nieces. ,I have date nights with my wife, and intentionally have dinner with my siblings regularly. That's how I show that I care.
Your day-to-day actions help you build the future that you want. And this course is built on that principle of personal agency. It's an invitation to embrace full responsibility for your life's direction, even when it's easier to place the blame somewhere else. We'll start by identifying what you truly stand for.
As we embark together, remember that our time together is just the beginning. Transformation requires a long-term commitment. For example, the first Aji Network course that I participated in lasted for two-years. That led to meeting Fernando Flores, who I then studied with for more than 5 years.
I say this to emphasize that you don't chase success, and then find it immediately. Instead, you need to become the type of person who would have that success. Once you do that, it comes to you. Creating that type of shift is not about willpower or hard work. It's also about being in the right spaces to cultivate the type of growth that you want.
Throughout the duration of our program, I'm inviting you to journal every day for at least ten minutes. Using a timer will be helpful.
This allows you to not only get clear on what you want to accomplish that day, but also get rid of any distractions that are keeping you unfocused.
To get things out of your head, you need to put them on the page– or on your phone. The important thing is to not stop, and to not think about your thinking. Instead of analyzing your thoughts, just get them on the page.
Outside of paper journals, I recommend a tool called Amplenote. This iPhone app is a combination of notes and to-dos. It's a bi-directional linking system, which we'll talk about more next time.
To start, make a distinction with two columns - one for creative expression, and the other for relationships.
Some examples of creativity include: performing at work, writing code that solves big problems, or painting. Any time where you are using your creativity to put a dent in the world and show that you were there.
Some examples of relationships are how you show up, spend time with, and take care of your spouse, kids, or parents. But they could also be with your coworkers, your church, or with nature.
"Good News, It's All Your Fault" is not just a course; it's a mindset, a way of life. It's about owning up to your choices and, in doing so, unlocking the potential for profound transformation. Let's begin.
Basic Materials
00:00 Stop Caring About Other People’s Opinions
08:00 How To Have Difficult Conversations
15:28 The Heavy Burden of Unmade Decisions
24:46 Overcoming the Fear of What Other People Think
33:00 In Life You Must Choose Your Regrets
42:18 Work as Hard as You Can at One Thing & See What Happens
54:09 Become a Hero By Using Your Pain
58:42 Success is the Only Revenge
1:11:02 You’ve Already Achieved Goals You Said Would Make You Happy
1:24:13 Nobody Will Hate on You for Doing Worse Than Them
1:36:22 Hold Yourself to a Higher Standard Than Anyone Else Does
1:48:56 How to Remember Everything You Learn
1:59:07 You Don’t Have to Feel Good About it, Just Keep Going
2:05:23 Judge Yourself By Your Actions Not Your Thoughts
2:18:59 Success Comes From Doing The Things Others Won’t Do
2:25:09 The Ultimate Productivity System
2:35:07 A Hack For Knowing Who You Should Take Advice From
2:43:55 Why Cynicism Is A Loser’s Strategy
2:49:10 Learning Isn’t a Spectator Sport
2:51:28 Where to Find Alex